I am usually the first to say that it is wrong to judge people before you get to know them. I truly believe that you can't tell what kind of heart a person has by how they look.
Big Sprout has a new friend, I will call her Pip. Pip lives in an apt building not too far from us that has a terrible reputation. Remember I have lived in this area almost all my life, and this building is BAD. Drugs, drinking, theft, child neglect (and I am sure abuse), the whole nine. I can't say that Pip's family is like this, I haven't met any of them. It could just be that the price was right and they didn't know or care about the rep of the building. Pip always looks a little dirty and her clothes are a little raggy, but does that mean she is a bad kid? She is quiet around me, but she hasn't known me long and it could be that she is shy. I don't know.
Yesterday Big Sprout invited Pip along to piano and then awana club. I wasn't happy about it, but only because it was last minute and I was feeling rushed anyway. Besides, what kid wants to watch their friend get a piano lesson? Anyway, I gave in and let Pip come along. I thought that if nothing else it would give me an opportunity to observe a little and find out if this was a friendship I would allow.
I was NOT going to take this child without some contact with her folks, though, so I wrote them a note with my phone number and asking permission to take their daughter for the evening. I told them where we were going and when I expected to be back. The response? A small slip of paper on it with a phone number. That was it.
So I took the girls with me, and I have to say that Pip did really well. She was polite and warmed up considerably the longer she spent time with me. She was sweet to Little Sprout and REALLY liked AWANA club. She chattered away on the way home about how she was going to ask her mom if she could join AWANAs and go with us every week.
So here I am, torn. My first instinct is not to trust this child, just because of the environment that she comes from. Yet she seems to be an okay kid. I hate the thought that I could be a judgemental b*tch, but the fact is that I just may be. I worry that I don't know anything about her parents. They seem to let her run a lot more than I let Big Sprout. I worry that she will be a bad influence on Big Sprout. On the other hand, if it is just that her folks don't have a lot of cash, who am I to say that makes them bad people? Just because they live in a building notorious for not-so-great tenants, does that mean that they follow the pattern? Would it not be better for me to open my home to her and give her a safe and fun place to come? Is it fair that I am so cautious with her just because her family doesn't live like mine?
So far I am just letting things progress and keeping a close eye on everything. I am hoping that time will show whether this little girl will be good or bad for Big Sprout. I am hoping that nothing bad happens.
I hate this