And forget not that the earth delights to feel your bare feet and the winds long to play with your hair. ~ Kahlil Gibran



Friday, December 26, 2008

Is It Finally Over?

I had Big Sprout call her paternal grandparents on Christmas Day. Some of you may remember that Mr. Barefoot is not Big Sprout's biological father. While Big Sprout's Biodad has been out of her life since she was just a baby, his parents and brother have been very good about keeping in contact with her and making her feel like part of their family.

Big Sprout talked to them for about 20 minutes, and then I got to talk to her Grandma for just a few minutes.

I am thinking that they are stepping back from us, and don't want to continue this relationship.

It wasn't anything Grandma said while we were on the phone....it was the way she talked. She just seemed....distant.

I am a little disappointed, but surprisingly not very hurt or upset about it. I know that our lives here have kept on moving forward, and I am sure that theirs have, too. If it isn't working for them anymore to keep putting so much effort into Big Sprout, I understand.

I just hope that they don't make her feel rejected.

We have a large enough family, and Big Sprout has plenty enough friends, I don't worry about her not feeling a sense of belonging. I know that if Grandma and Grandpa want to fade away, Big Sprout will be kept busy enough with other things to not really struggle with it too much.

I'm just.....disappointed.

1 comment:

Finding Pam said...

As the saying goes,people are in our lives for a reason, season or lifetime. Time and distance does make it hard to keep the realationship going.

I am sad for BS if her Grandmother feels that way. I could not have made it without my grandparents, but then you do have a wonderful family that loves her so much.

Why don't you ask her if she feels that way?