tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28932372.post3937000322092183629..comments2024-01-28T13:17:05.441-06:00Comments on Barefoot in the Garden: Birth Control and DepressionUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28932372.post-9246354036659510442008-03-08T01:51:00.000-06:002008-03-08T01:51:00.000-06:00Peter, I certainly didn't think you meant anything...Peter, I certainly didn't think you meant anything untoward by your comment. I took it as a general statement of you being the only guy in a conversation being dominated by women.<BR/><BR/>Honestly, I think there are pros & cons of a guy leaving the decisions to his wife. On the pro side, as my husband said, it's my body & if I wanted to have the surgery then it was my choice. We did discuss Katihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18312698112377656801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28932372.post-48879227229403155802008-03-06T04:32:00.000-06:002008-03-06T04:32:00.000-06:00Kati, it was a generalisation about my gender that...Kati, <BR/>it was a generalisation about my gender that I was making regarding the discussion as a whole rather than a personal critisism of you or your relationship. If it read that way, and re-reading it again with my comments at the end I can see that you may have thought that, then I certainly do apologise. So often my gender does, as Barefoot said, leave it all up to the female to do what isRev. Peter Doodeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15095282505667909048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28932372.post-82708990466137640302008-03-06T04:20:00.000-06:002008-03-06T04:20:00.000-06:00Brad-If you can convince HIM, then I am all for it...Brad-<BR/>If you can convince HIM, then I am all for it! *smile*<BR/><BR/>Kati-<BR/>It's all good, darlin'. The written word can be tricky sometimes....barefoot gardenerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18089017268890241495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28932372.post-20446464860001176702008-03-05T22:50:00.000-06:002008-03-05T22:50:00.000-06:00I'm sorry. I didn't mean to imply that anybody he...I'm sorry. I didn't mean to imply that anybody here HAD called DH a coward, I was only trying to explain that it was completely my decision and that I didn't want anybody to think it was DH being cowardly or any such thing.<BR/><BR/>Again, I'm sorry. I really did not mean to upset anybody. This isn't the first time I've had folks question my reasoning, and maybe a little bit of the past Katihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18312698112377656801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28932372.post-83152128314442934492008-03-05T21:40:00.000-06:002008-03-05T21:40:00.000-06:00Doing nothing about depression gets you nowhere. Y...Doing nothing about depression gets you nowhere. You have taken control of yourself if you're doing something to deal with it.<BR/><BR/>What about a vasectomy for Mr. Barefoot? You have two sprouts already, so he can "shoot blanks" now and you can keep your clarity.bradhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12145316476497223565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28932372.post-3483846780300537492008-03-05T14:09:00.000-06:002008-03-05T14:09:00.000-06:00Whoah, Kati. I was the one who called men cowards ...Whoah, Kati. I was the one who called men cowards for not getting snipped. Peter was just putting an option out there that hadn't been mentioned yet. Quite frankly, I think he had a good point that too many men leave all birth control up to the female.<BR/><BR/>You made the right choice for you, and after reading your reasons I am more likely to consider it than I was before. Please don't think barefoot gardenerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18089017268890241495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28932372.post-10145637303580998242008-03-05T13:51:00.000-06:002008-03-05T13:51:00.000-06:00for Fr. Peter Doodes.... I DID elect to get the s...for Fr. Peter Doodes.... I DID elect to get the surgery myself. It wasn't a lack of willingness on my hubby's part, but a determination on my part that I never, ever be put in the situation of having to choose between bearing or aborting an unwanted pregnancy. Just because my hubby might be sterile (which he's not, because I had it done), doesn't mean that I couldn't still get prego through Katihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18312698112377656801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28932372.post-64562186190651261552008-03-05T13:45:00.000-06:002008-03-05T13:45:00.000-06:00Wendy-I was on Depo for one year, and that was the...Wendy-<BR/>I was on Depo for one year, and that was the first time I had a "severe depressive episode". That's what they call it when you can't get out of bed for weeks at a time, you know.<BR/><BR/>I always worry about IUD's. I mean, they are sticking something in you that is just gonna hang out there. It seems wierd. Glad it is working for you, though.<BR/><BR/>Gina<BR/>I have worried that I barefoot gardenerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18089017268890241495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28932372.post-58349075765513044972008-03-05T12:45:00.000-06:002008-03-05T12:45:00.000-06:00OK, I'm a man so I am at a great big disadvantage ...OK, I'm a man so I am at a great big disadvantage here, so please, please excuse me for being simplistic and/or speaking out of turn, but if you'r in a permanent relationship and you don't want any more children, why doesn't the male half of the partnership have what is a minor (snip) operation? I read Kati's post and my toes curled!Rev. Peter Doodeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15095282505667909048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28932372.post-42076307249202930632008-03-05T09:56:00.000-06:002008-03-05T09:56:00.000-06:00I agree: you described depression very well. This ...I agree: you described depression very well. This is from another clinically depressed woman trying my best to keep off the meds (I haven't been on them since last summer).<BR/><BR/>I was sterilized after Lyndon was born and have regretted it ever since. If you are absolutely positive no other kids are in the future it is the most sure way to avoid pregnancy (1/200 fail). However, I really wish IGinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10788740577135090145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28932372.post-90490187967189300432008-03-05T07:00:00.000-06:002008-03-05T07:00:00.000-06:00I never considered myself depressed, and while I w...I never considered myself depressed, and while I was a solitary (not lonely, mind you) and introverted kid, I was always happy, and always looking to the bright side. Once, when my parents were complaining about money, I said to my father, "We're rich! Because we have each other." It wasn't until I started using Depo Provera and then, after my fourth daughter's birth, the pill, that I ended upWendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04642417312794814066noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28932372.post-55713783758405379362008-03-04T16:29:00.000-06:002008-03-04T16:29:00.000-06:00Jacki-I am so glad to hear from you! I thought you...Jacki-<BR/>I am so glad to hear from you! I thought you had given up on me, it has been so long since I have heard from you. I have been checking in over at your place, and I like the new look...barefoot gardenerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18089017268890241495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28932372.post-60710188326660700932008-03-04T16:05:00.000-06:002008-03-04T16:05:00.000-06:00You're so good at describing what a depressed pers...You're so good at describing what a depressed person goes through. That's all I really wanted to say :)Jackihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13224369560917076336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28932372.post-54933700680568225312008-03-04T15:21:00.000-06:002008-03-04T15:21:00.000-06:00Kati-OUCH!! I can't imagine going in for something...Kati-<BR/>OUCH!! I can't imagine going in for something that was supposed to be simple and easy, and coming out with a big old incision across my belly. Glad things worked out, though.<BR/><BR/>Mr. Barefoot and I have been discussing our options, and hopefully soon we will make a final decision. I only know that since I got to be the one to give birth, I am not going in for another surgery ;)<BR/barefoot gardenerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18089017268890241495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28932372.post-39415757293455476722008-03-04T13:12:00.000-06:002008-03-04T13:12:00.000-06:00Fr. Peter-Thank you. Honestly, thank you. I am mor...Fr. Peter-<BR/>Thank you. Honestly, thank you. I am more humbled and soothed by your words than I can express.<BR/><BR/>Fixing-<BR/>I am so glad you commented! I have been on and off bc a few times, and noticed this same thing happening before. The doc keeps telling me it's all in my head, but even if that's true I would prefer to be off and feel better than to stay on and keep trying to convincebarefoot gardenerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18089017268890241495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28932372.post-54258459866334598282008-03-04T13:08:00.000-06:002008-03-04T13:08:00.000-06:00I can understand because I recall well how I felt ...I can understand because I recall well how I felt after my surgery & going off my depo. I don't think I've ever had depression the way we generally think of it, not a constant, major cloud over my head, but even so.... It feels so much lighter not to have those chemicals rushing through my body, bogging me down.<BR/><BR/>Not sure what your plans are, obviously, regarding more children, but I'd Katihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18312698112377656801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28932372.post-8357279046668713572008-03-04T12:54:00.000-06:002008-03-04T12:54:00.000-06:00I read your blog all the time but this is the firs...I read your blog all the time but this is the first time I felt compelled to comment. When my pills ran out I was in the process of switching insurance and ended up without them for three weeks. I'm had severe depression and anxiety for years and I know things improved for me when I stopped taking my bc pills. It's been a year and I haven't looked back! Good luck! I'm really enjoying reading yourFixing My Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04152313745060400263noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28932372.post-47062931162071825992008-03-04T12:29:00.000-06:002008-03-04T12:29:00.000-06:00Barefoot, depression is as real as a broken limb a...Barefoot, depression is as real as a broken limb and usually more debilitating, the fact is though that there is no plaster cast to be wrapped around the problem and so it goes unnoticed by most people. The associated anxiety and panic attacks are 100% real, the fact that others are unable to see this and lucky enough not to experience the way that you are feeling in no way negates your Rev. Peter Doodeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15095282505667909048noreply@blogger.com